The Other Woman

You know the one. She’s across the room, and immediately you know it. She has it all together. She might have great hair and style and friends laughing around her, but what really makes your soul shrink is something it’s harder to put your finger on. Looking at her, you’re convinced she’s discovered some secret to life that has eluded you, something that is wrapped in, but lies beyond confidence or success or beauty. She has it, and she has it, and her too. Not you.

I was part of a women’s retreat at my church on Saturday that upended the scenario above. Perhaps this is not surprising. At Triune, we’re pretty good at going ahead and admitting we don’t have it all together, and the ways we don’t have it together are as varied as our lives. I’ve never been with a group of women with whom I felt such warmth and safety, acceptance and peace. Our few hours together were so life-giving.

The retreat’s theme was “What’s Calling You Now?” We first spent time considering the idea of calling or vocation. We took personality tests that encouraged us to dig more deeply into how we react to new situations, what our gifts might be, and the spiritual practices that will build our strengths but not feed into our weaknesses. We pondered the journey toward our calling as a voyage toward authenticity, toward offering our particular gift to the world.

I came away excited to continue delving into becoming the unique woman God has created me to become. There’s no secret ease to being that other woman knows. I sat with women middle-aged and older, lovely and wise, asking and answering, speaking and silent. All on the same path to becoming comfortable in our own soul-skins.

So the next time you see that woman across the room, catch her eye and smile. She has strengths and weaknesses, gifts and things that trip her up. She’s on her way, just like you, just like me.


7 thoughts on “The Other Woman

  1. Trish

    I’m so glad you have found such a wonderful group, Missy. Other women can be so intimidating! It’s a true breath of fresh air to find some who feel safe to be themselves and allow you to do so, also. Hmm……kind of like those on a back porch last summer

  2. Rhonda Gilliam


    It was so great meeting you on Saturday and spending lunch, tea and a day with you. I felt the same way about the retreat setting & the wonderful participants! It was by far one of the coolest things I’ve been a part of in a while.

    I look forward to reading more of your blogs when I have time to “go back” and look at them. I wish you and your family a blessed Thanksgiving and I’ll be keeping you in my prayers as you forge ahead in this lovely endeavor.

    Blessings & prayers to you!

    1. adailyportion Post author


      It was great to meet you, and the retreat was such a place of warmth and safe questioning– I loved it.

      I wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving and would love to connect again. Many blessings,

  3. Kristin Blankenship

    This sounds like a great retreat! Doesn’t it warm your soul to be in the midst of women, bearing their own strengths and weaknesses, all seeking “to be comfortable in their own soul-skins?” God is good!
    Love to you, Missy!

  4. Rachel

    this was such a wise post… something we all needed to hear. we women can be so mean. and even though i live in a house of all males :), i can’t seem to get rid of women around me in other parts of my life! ha!


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